Being vulnerable is what makes us human. It connects us on a totally different level. Being vulnerable requires you to accept and to love yourself completely. When you’re showing your vulnerability to another person, you’re basically saying: ‘I trust you with accepting me completely for the way I am’. Showing vulnerability is a great way to make a deep connection with someone else and to really bond with each other. Being vulnerable opens you up. It’s a genuine action of putting your trust in the hands of someone else. Although it creates strong relationships, many people still don’t like to show their vulnerability. They all have their reasons on why they won’t show vulnerability. And this is really regrettable, because showing vulnerability has a huge positive impact on your life and those of others. In this blog post I’m going to discuss why people aren’t showing their vulnerability and why they should be doing it.
Potential problems with being vulnerable
Most people don’t like to show off their authentic self. They think that people will take advantage of it. Others may think that people don’t really like their ‘softer’ side and are afraid that it will scare them away. This is really a big problem, because this means it has nothing to do with showing vulnerability, but everything to do with loving and accepting yourself. You can only be authentic when you’re fine with the way you are and not pretending to be someone you’re not. When you’ve accepted yourself, you’ll start caring less about the opinions of other people on what they might think of you.
When we do show vulnerability it’s often not what we wanted to in the first place. No, we show our vulnerability only, because people couldn’t stand the robotic version of you anymore and had to force it upon you to open up. Your relationships will suffer from you ‘being tough’ act. And at one moment, people will just stop caring about it. They won’t mind. if you have issues that you need to get off your chest, because they think you wouldn’t tell tell it anyway.
Being vulnerable causes people to have a soft spot and it’s difficult to open about such things in our lives, that we rather prefer not to talk about.. We all have these kinds of issues. But not everyone is being pushed by their trust issues, remember that. It’s a conscious choice to go through life as a robot or as a human.
Benefits of being vulnerable
The people who are showing their vulnerability have more faith in the good things that will come out of it than the potential problems they might risk.
Being vulnerable makes you strong. Why, you may think. It takes a lot of courage to show your true self to someone else. Your vulnerability will attract other people who appreciate your openness and your tender heart. You’re telling the world that you accept yourself for who you truly are and that you’re not afraid to show it. Being vulnerable causes an increase in the quality of your relationships and to have more genuine relations, the positive impact you have on other people’s lives will be bigger and your overall happiness with your life will increase.
The examples I mentioned aren’t just random chosen. Why do you think that people who have had many failed relationships, still go on dates? They know that a life living ‘like a robot’ isn’t going to last. They’ve come to realize that they need to have someone in their lives with whom they can share everything with.
I’m not over dramatizing the effects of showing vulnerability. You see, all these benefits may come as a surprise to you, but that’s because you may probably never looked at it this way. When people talk about vulnerability it’s often accompanied by how bad it can turn out and how you really should be careful with showing someone your authentic self. Of course, it’s a bit scary to open up to someone, but that shouldn’t stop you from doing it. If we didn’t do the things that were scary and exciting at the same time, we all would be living boring and unfulfilling lives. I recommend you start opening up your hearts. Because what happens when people open their hearts? They get better.
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