“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” – Coco Chanel
Am I Not Beautiful?
Have you ever been insulted because of your look? Whether we realize it or not, we have been exposed to beautiful celebrities, spokesperson, athletes, and models on TV, billboard, magazines and many more. It seems that they all represent a certain look (Caucasian/Black/Asian people who are tall, skinny, blonde/black haired, has six-pack and a symmetrical face). We are implicitly told that the only way to be beautiful is to conform to a certain standard. If we do not follow that standard, we cannot be perceived to be beautiful.
The Downside on Wanting to Be Beautiful
Why do we want to look beautiful so bad? We certainly do receive benefits of looking beautiful. A research showed that companies that place a premium to hire very attractive people had on average higher revenues than similar companies that did not. Beautiful people (people who are physically beautiful) are often treated better than those who are perceived not to be beautiful and this applied on both men and women.
Our obsession of wanting to look good is also a very profitable market for both the beauty and health industries. Forbes estimated the annual revenue of the beauty industry reached up to $382 billion in 2015. The health industry even reached $1.688 trillion in 2015. These results could show that we need to wear a certain make up or eat certain food to lose weight in order to be called beautiful or handsome as it applied for both men and women.
We began to see our imperfections as flaws. We began to have insecurities and unrealistic expectations on what we should look like. Some of us may even have insulted other people because of this. Some of us might have developed low self-esteem and are dependent to other people’s approval of how they look like. Others might have developed some mental health issues such as eating disorder due to this obsession. We begin to see that it is wrong to be different; to be who we really are, and that beauty only has one certain look. But, could beauty be only defined through one standard or is there more to it?
What is beauty?
To be honest, it is difficult to define beauty due to the various cultural interpretations related to it. For example: in Japan, a girl is said to be beautiful if she has long dark hair. In Kenya, a woman is said to be beautiful when she shaved her head and when she has long earlobes…
Individually, we may also have different definitions of beauty. Some of my friends told me that beauty is about embracing what is unique about you and working with what you have, being comfortable enough with whatever you look like physically and to have a good heart that shines through.
All of these definitions represent that there are so many standards on what it means to be beautiful, both collectively and individually. Therefore, it may not be wise to define ourselves only in one light. If we are able to look beneath our physical look, there are still so many beautiful things that we can uncover.
We Are All Beautiful
We should realize that none of us are perfect and everyone is beautiful in his or her own way. If we judge ourselves or other people because they do not have the “look” that we are supposed to follow, we could be missing out on having new friends or lovers that are good for us. We would also miss out on knowing new culture or places if we only live in such a narrow understanding of beauty.
We also possess our own unique features, talents, and dreams. I find that people are immensely beautiful when they are so in tune with whom they are and with what they want to achieve. These people made the world a more beautiful place to live in because they are able to spread such positive energy that makes me and the people around them feel so alive.
To be honest, looking good could be beneficial but there is a downside to it. Some of the most beautiful people I know have really low self-esteem. They tend to perceive that people only like them because of their looks and not for who they really are. From this perspective, I could say that having physical beauty is not a guarantee for happiness. It certainly could but there are so much more to life than to just to look good. Love yourself for who you are focus more on growing your confidence, kindness, compassion, and empathy shine for the world to see. Let these qualities become the common standards for being beautiful instead of having that one “perfect” look.
Wearing make-up or exercising should not be avoided. However, we do need to remember that the purpose of make-up is only to accentuate your best feature instead of creating it. Exercising is also beneficial for your health; just do not be obsessed with having the “perfect” body that you have such a low opinion on yourself if you cannot achieve it. You are incredibly beautiful when you accept that your imperfections are not flaws. They are simply a reminder that we are only human with strengths and weaknesses that made us uniquely beautiful.
Do not waste your life wanting or even trying to be someone else or to fulfill an unrealistic standard that the society puts. If someone puts you down because you do not fit to a certain standard, just walk away. I feel sad for the people who could only or are only willing to see beauty in one standard because they are totally missing out on discovering amazing people, places, and cultures in life. Nothing is more attractive than seeing someone embracing who they really are in a loving manner. Physical beauty does capture the eye, but only a good personality could catch the heart. Be your own kind of beautiful and do not be afraid to own it!
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