The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams – Eleanor Roosevelt
What is success?
Success is a term that has so many definitions into it. Some say that success is about achieving the goals that we want in life. These goals can be: having a lot of money, power, fame, respect, goodness, happiness, and so many more. It varies depending on each person’s education, background, culture, race, socioeconomic status, the country the person live in and many more. Despite the many definitions, fortunately, we can still identify and acknowledge ways to create and chase our own success that is unique to each one of us with these steps below.
1. Define it
Before we start working our ways to be successful, we need to define what our definition of success really is. For example: Ariana Huffington, the founder of Huffington Post, defines her success in four pillars: well-being, wisdom, wonder, and giving. She emphasizes the important of having an optimal work-life balance as her definition of success because she knows that if you are not living well or healthily, you cannot really enjoy the fruits of your labour. By knowing what she wants to achieve, Ariana can achieve tremendous success in her career and also in her personal life.
2. Know yourself
The true power of achieving success lies within you. You can never be successful without knowing your strengths and your limitations and how you can improve from them. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses will lead you to pursue your passion instead of being distracted doing other irrelevant things that bring you negative stress (stress that is bad for your health). Your passion will lead you to do the work that is meaningful and you will more likely to have better health because you encounter positive stress (stress that helps you grow in your work). You will thrive in it because it is your greatest craft. Also, mastering your emotion is very crucial. People who have high emotional intelligence are more likely to be successful in their life compared to those who are not. They will have more self-awareness and control towards their and other people emotions when they have to socialize with people. If you can manage this type of intelligence, you will go far in life.
3. Be confident
If you cannot believe that you can be successful, it would be hard for other people to believe in you. You should always remember that every expert in every field is once a beginner or an amateur who simply believes that they can be and do better. You may be a beginner or you may have been halfway there but if you are not confident, you should know that the only one that can block your success is your own insecurity and fear that you cannot make it. Remember, challenges can be hard, but if you believe that you can face it, you can overcome them.
4. Have perseverance and grit
No matter how intelligent you might be, success is not always easy to be achieved. There will always be challenges that come in your ways and the one of the ways to overcome them is to persevere or to hold on when things get tough. Why is this important? It is not that people are not smart. They are smart but they do not want it bad enough that they give up too easily. If you want to be successful, you would hang in the process and go through with it. Those who are successful are often not the smartest. Oftentimes, they are just the ones that want it bad enough that they persevere the hardest.
5. Be grateful
Life is hard and the road to success is never a straight one. Oftentimes, it is a narrow and difficult one where sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. However, it does not mean that you fail. It only means that you are learning and progressing in life. Be grateful for the things and the people that we still have in our lives. No matter how difficult people or situations could be, we should always remember that we are going somewhere and we still have a chance to make things right. When you are grateful, you will be happy. When you are happy, you set a positive mindset to be successful.
6. Surround yourself with genuine people
Last but not least, while you do need to surround yourself with smart people to learn how they effectively built their business, do remember that not all of them are genuine people. Some smart people can be extremely ambitious that they are willing to do anything to bring down their competitors and may even expect you to repay them in some shady ways. Be careful with this type of people and stay away from them.
Instead, surround yourself with those who love you unconditionally. These people can be your family, friends, and/or significant other. It does not matter how many genuine people you have around you, even if you only have one, genuine people will always support you, not because they want anything from you, but because they sincerely believe that you can be the best if you believe in yourself. Their love and positivity will help you to go through the good and the bad. If you already have them in your life, always remember to keep them in your life because they are a rare find and they do not come often in life.
So, what will you do next?
In conclusion, your version of success will be different than anyone else. Society may label success as having a lot of money, materials, and just basically living big. If you define success in that way, then go for it. If you do not want to, then you do not have to go for it. You can always define your own success and live according to it without any guilty feeling. Oftentimes, we tend to make ourselves unhappy because we like to compare our definition of success with other people’s way of perceiving success. But, now that we know what we want in life and acknowledge the fact that other people have different definitions than us, we will be happier and we will always enjoy life, no matter what is and will come at us.
In the end, success does not have to be how many Lamborghinis you have, it is not about how big your house is or how big your bank account may be, sometimes success is about being grateful with the people and the life that you can build by doing a calling that is meaningful to you. Life is not easy but when you can enjoy the all the process along the way, you are already setting yourself to be a great success in the future. Once you believe that you can, you are already there among the great ones that have make it work before you. Have faith and keep up the spirit!
What is success for you? How are you going to achieve it?
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