How to Actually Set a New Year Resolution
It’s 2017! Yeay! This is the time where most people say, “New Year, New Me” right?
What do most people do when it’s New Year? Reminiscing what they have done wrong at the whole year, and “make a resolution” to “fix” their mistakes.
That is what magical in “New Year”, it gives you hope that next year is a clean slate or a new start, or a blank canvas for you. You make plans for it, you make goals, you set new targets, and leave what happened last year to stay at last year, but do you realize what happened afterwards?
Most of you don’t do those resolutions.
Most of you don’t reach your own target.
Most of you repeat the same mistake that you did last year.
What do you wish for?
Does it sound like,
“To get a job and save a lot of money”
“To eat healthier and go to the gym”
“To not be lazy and stop procrastinating”
Those resolutions sound good actually, but end up as clichés most of the time?
Because it is too far. It is so far until you procrastinate and think it is okay because you got a lot of time to eventually do it, so you get lazy, you eat junk food, you waste your money on clothes or shoes you don’t actually need, you don’t actually “get better” because you don’t know what you should change about yourself. We don’t think that once we start breaking our own resolutions, the habit will continue and the next thing you know, you end up in just the same shape as you were last year.
Those resolutions are too wide and you don’t have the energy to manage it in a year.
Here is what you have to do
1. Set small goals.
Make a resolution each week. Don’t set targets too far. The further it is, the more difficult for you to see and reach it. It doesn’t have to be a big resolution or significant change for you. Just list something small like, “I will eat fruit a lot more this week” or “i will go to the gym twice” or “I will curse less often than I usually do”. Small targets like them are easy to achieve, and usually you will end up achieve more. You will feel more confident and capable to achieve more next week.
2. Give Yourself Feedback
Once you have reached the end of the month, review the things you have achieved. Look at the list that you have made each week, and see how far you have progressed. This action will enhance your “self-monitoring” skill.
3. Progress is Progress
It is okay to have a slow progress. Everybody has their own speed on progressing. Changing bad habits is not something that you can do in a week, because it is a habit.. It has been a habit because you do it repeatedly and it has become your character, so it is not an easy thing to change. For example, a man set a goal to stop smoking this year. He will stop in the first month and will crave for one cigar in the second month. He will reward himself for not smoking in a while by smoke 1 cigar, and without him noticing, he will be back as a smoker. Just set little targets such as “smoke only 3 cigars every day” and once it is achieved, set it higher as “smoke 3 cigars every 2 days”, and then set it higher and higher. This goes the same for those who wants to go the gym, to not procrastinate, to save money, etc.
4. Take action
Just do it. Thanks to Nike, this catch phrase has a hug impact on people. This sounds easier to be said than done, but “Just do it” is perfect for people who plan a lot (and sometimes a little too much) but end up not doing it. These people plan things until it’s perfect, then do it. Sometimes they don’t get things done because they feel like their planning isn’t perfect. For example, you plan to go to the gym, and then u wait for the right time to join, to apply, to buy new running shoes, to buy sport bra or legging. You are procrastinating. Just use the shoes you have now and apply for gym membership, and you don’t need sport tank top or legging, just use training/sweat pants and shirt. The longer you plan it, the longer you start, and you will most likely never start.
Appreciate and reward yourself every week, but not with junk food or cigar, or clothes you don’t need, okay?
Progress and experience are personal. You don’t need to put such a high target as your friends, or you wish for a dramatic change in a year. Make small changes every week, and you won’t notice that you are a completely different person at the end of this year.
Don’t just plan, but do.
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