After a couple of weeks settling in this new year, we are hoping that you are enjoying and living life to the fullest as well! As previously mentioned in the last article, we all have commitments that we want to keep this year. However, there is a key factor that is essential to get our commitments done this year and that is emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence has been “the talk” in years . There have been a lot of findings that suggest people who are emotionally intelligent are more likely to be successful compared to those who are not, even if that person has a high IQ. People who have high emotional intelligence are also found to have more meaningful relationships with other people, which lead to more happiness compared to those who are not. So, what does it mean by being emotionally intelligent? Being emotionally intelligent basically means you have the ability to regulate your emotions as you interact with the people and the situations around you. You are able to control your emotions because you can identify and accept your strengths and weaknesses. You may recognize the types of people who are emotionally intelligent are those who are able to control themselves and shine in times of difficulties. Genuine people are also a sign that person is emotionally intelligent. Maybe you have known a person or maybe a couple of people that you just feel very comfortable talking to because you know that person do not judge you. Emotionally intelligent people are those who know when to say “no” and they do not feel bad about it. They also never lash out their emotions on other people or try to make people look bad. These signs are only a few ways to identify people who are emotionally intelligent. If you think that you are not emotionally intelligent or may have difficulties in being one, you do not need to be scared or sad. Emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed and improved over time. How? Check these steps below:
1. Accept the past, focus on the present
People who are emotionally intelligent know that the past is the past and there is nothing more they can do about it. Even when you make a mistake in the present moment, you do not need to ruminate or keep on thinking, “Why did I do that?”
You need accept and learn from the things that went wrong in the past are part of learning as we will always progress in life. You will make mistakes, you will fail, but if you are emotionally intelligent, you know that the best solution is not to overthink it, but to find solutions on what you can do to fix what was wrong before.
2. Reduce negative emotion
Maybe you are wondering, ”How am I supposed to do this?” It is quite a difficult move, especially if you are the type of person who likes to dwell in negative emotions, especially when it already becomes a habit. Habit may have been shaped for a long time, but it can be broken down. How? If you want to be a more positive person, we can start by making things not personal, but more as a way to understand a situation or what is going on, you try to infer a couple of things not only from your own point of view, but also from others. Try to reduce making complaints and try to be more grateful day by day. Do not let sadness or anger take over you, but try to deal with them better by channeling them to positive actions. People who are emotionally intelligent are not those who never complain or those who never feel emotions such as anger or sadness, they are just those who know to handle them well without letting these emotions controlling them.
3. Be assertive and say “no”
Yes, you can still be a good person by saying what is on your mind and even by saying “no”. Being assertive in this case is that when you say things on your mind with confidence. Why should you be assertive? You have a right to state what is on your mind as long as you do it politely also with the consideration of others would feel. You also have a freedom to say “no” when you feel that you are overwhelmed or if you need a time for yourself. Saying “no” makes people respect you more because they see you as someone who is firm and decisive, someone who is able to take charge of their own lives. By saying no, you also allow yourself to focus your energy on the right people and also on the right stuffs you can do in your life.
4. Be proactive, and not reactive
A lot of people are so used to being reactive or letting the situation handle their emotions, making them act impulsively and rash. As someone who is emotionally intelligent, one of our greatest strengths is that we are able to handle our emotions in difficult times, especially when we are under a lot of stress. Having a lot on your plate does not give you an excuse to lash out on others, which actually shows that you are not really emotionally intelligent. Instead of being reactive, you can actually think logically and you redirect your negative emotions into positive ones. The same thing happens when you have to deal with difficult people. For some people, their behaviour will irritate them a lot. But if you are emotionally intelligent, you know that you can always take control about when they act annoying around you. You do not let their behaviours affect you at all and you can handle them properly. You can be assertive when you deal with them and you can still say “no” with confidence. Remember, no matter how the environment reacts to us, we can always decide to respond appropriately towards them.
5. Care about other people
If you want to be more emotionally intelligent, you definitely have to start caring more for other people. You cannot claim that you are emotionally intelligent when you have no care for other people. This is simply impossible. How do you care for other people? Empathy. Empathy helps you to see things from other people’s point of views. When you are smarter in recognizing people’s emotions, you will know the effective ways in dealing with people. Empathy itself leads to better and more meaningful relationships with other people whether it is in your home, workplace, school, etc. It helps you achieve a lot of success in life.
To conclude this article, it may not easy to have a high emotional intelligence, considering that it takes a lot of practice to harvest this skill, but it is not impossible. Remember, the first step for you to conquer the world starts from the ability of mastering yourself. If you can master yourself or be in charge of your life, nothing, and I mean, nothing can hold you back from the success you can achieve.
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